Okay Ladies, this seems to be the # 1 trending topic running through our thoughts & convos during girl talk daily .. literally! The thing is scripture reassures us there's a time & a season for everything under the sun. While you may "
feel"
like you are ready to get married, there just may be more than a seasonal reason why you haven't just yet.
Let's reevaluate some things. What's most important to you? Ask yourself that question.... Perhaps, you have the wrong things are at the top of the list. See, if we think, now that I have graduated college & found the job of my dreams --
now it's time to meet the man of my dreams.. the problem can be with your thinking. There are things that the Lord desires to bless us with, but if our priorities are out of whack, then we may never see them. You might be saying, "what is she talking about?" ... what I'm saying ladies, is that if finishing college, landing in your best career, and finding a husband is your focus .... & not Christ, then that's the problem.
Our issue is that we look to things & people to fulfill us. When God said it Himself, that because we belong to Him -- He's jealous when we place anything or anyone else in His place. There's nothing wrong with having things, just do not let those things become more important to us than our relationship with Christ. When we keep our focus on Him, we will have no need to go searching for a man or husband... he would come find us. That's order & scripture,
"He that finds a wife..." Prov18:22 God knows what He's doing. When it's the right time & when He sees fit .. the man of your dreams will walk into your life. What if God doesn't send you Mr. Right? Are you going to marry just any ol man? Or will you continue to live for the Lord & serving Him wholeheartedly? Don't grow weary in "waiting on God to send you a man". Spend numerous amounts of hours, effort & your energy focusing on your amazing walk with the Lord. So far,
He's the only man that has proven to you that HE's all that you need! Love on Him, be intimate with HIM, go on dates with HIM & go to bed at night with only HIM next to you & not some man who isn't your husband. Make sure your perspective is what He desires, which should be greater than your own. Your mind should be made up, "
Lord Your will & not my own."
Got family members pushing the envelope? ... GOSH!, tell me about it! If it ain't my mom, it's my grandmother and if it's not her .. it's the media & the pressure I get when looking at my friends who've already married. Trust me girl, you are not alone. I, too at times get weary & be like, "Lord, when is my time?". But, I dare not question my Savior about things of that nature -- especially when He's still working on me. Yes, we're all a work in progress. And there is a level of spiritual maturity we must reach in order to see the things God desires for us. It takes willingness & long suffering & literally humbling ourselves. This is a part of the Christian walk. We face tough times, but don't let them sidetrack you. Even if you make a mistake, ask for forgiveness & repent.. but keep moving forward. You wouldn't want the man of your dreams to find you in a place in your walk struggling with sin .. therefore, always be prepared for the Lord as well as the man He may place in your life. Another big misconception is that ALL your friends are getting married -- that's NOT TRUE! There are some beautiful young women who love God & honors Him & are waiting just like you are to get married. So don't get all up in your feelings thinking that you are the only one... because you're not!
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Another reason why you shouldn't rush to marry .. is because you could easily end up marrying -
the wrong guy! Just because you & your best friend graduated together, dyed your hair at the same time & even bought your first car at the same time .. doesn't mean you are both suppose to marry at the same time. Not saying it can't happen, but it may not be your time!
"Patience is a virtue that few end up finding." Why rush to marry anyway? Looking at the divorce rates of today, we sure don't need anymore divorces.
Be patient & keep your heart on the Lord. Ask God to give you a list of things to do daily until that Godly man comes in your life. You should be so wrapped up in the Lord that a good man has to consult with the Lord prior to approaching you! You are just that valuable & precious to God. He won't just hook you up with anyone. He desires THE BEST for you -- greater than you could ever imagine.
Eph3:20 Stop settling & know that when your season arrives to marry, you won't be sitting around questioning or wondering.. but you'll be preparing & planning.
The Holy Spirit will lead you & guide you into all truth, He will not steer you wrong. Get it right the first time & it can prevent a whole lot of heartache.
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If you're reading this, and you don't understand your value or haven't accepted Christ as you own personal Lord & Savior you can right now.
If He's knocking on the door of your heart, let Him come in & He will live in you & transform you from the inside out. Check out my other blog entitled
"I'm know I'm not happy .. but I LOVE HIM" this will help you if you're in the dating world & still can't seem to understand why you keep running into the no good men. God bless you sweetie, I'm praying for you..
God is madly in love with you!
...Love Vontrail :)
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