"Being SINGLE is not a curse, it's a GIFT!"

The JOYS of being single & focused on Christ!

In singleness, we "singles" are not lonely or missing out on some great thing .. look at the world today & some of the marriages in reality, we have to refocus our attention on our relationship with God! If you think finding & marrying the man/woman of your dreams is when happiness will begin in your life, then that's the deception that has got your life on hold! True happiness & fulfillment starts in a relationship with Christ! I can't stress this enough ... Marriage isn't some constitution you enter in & then your issues, the drama, & problems prior to will just go away! For anything, you are now bringing that baggage into your marriage! .. Whatever issues that you have before hand, whether it's with yourself  needs to be taken care of now whether or not you marry. You as a single can do things without the consent of another & having the responsibility of having to include your significant other in outings with others. This is a critical time in your life to get where God desires you to be, join organizations, go on mission trips, travel & go places you are trying hold out on hold for marriage. Look at the bright side, as of now, the only One you have to answer to is God :)

Marriage is not a fairy tale.

Marriage is not a fairy tale! Stop thinking that marriage is a piece of cake or some fantasy that you must fulfill before you go crazy. We have this painted image in our mind that makes us think that being marriage is when we will experience true love. True love comes from a marriage relationship with God through Christ Jesus. "Until you fall in love with God, you'll never truly be capable of loving another." - Rickey E. Macklin ...If you can't be faithful to & love God, you can't do that in a marriage. "And PLEASE STOP thinking that people change once they get married!" ... if that ain't the oldest LIE in history! Who they are now, is who they'll be then. Who you ARE now, IS who you will be then.  Ladies, most of us women dream of & plan how are wedding day will be, but never plan on how to be a wife to the man we marry. Your husband will have greater needs than just sex & a plate of food --- in marriage you take on a whole new role as being the helper for that person. Guys, you must have your focus on Christ & not a woman ... "human can't fill the void that only Christ can fill." That's why it takes GOD to prepare you, fix you & equip you .. beyond the natural state of marriage, there is a spiritual realm that must be considered & only GOD knows when you are truly ready for marriage.

Spend ample amount of time with God.

Singles, if you are unhappy, struggling with managing your finances or dealing with the fear of being alone, getting married will not change that! Don't go taking your lonely, empty & self-absorbing appetite in a marriage with someone with issues thinking yall can overlook them & work them issues out then. No, deal with them now & hash out all that now. Your loneliness won't be cured once you get married. Enjoy being single. Find joy & contentment in your season of singleness. This is a time where you can grow closer to the Lord & take care of what pleases Him. Your focus should not be on someone or getting married as soon as you meet someone great --- what about your commitment to Christ? Being single is the season in your life where God can groom you & mold you into the one He desires you to be. He will fill the emptiness in you that you try to fill with everything & everyone else around you. Give that loneliness & frustration over to Him for He cares for what concerns you. Ask Him for contentment. I'll tell you this, how do you know when you are NOT ready for marriage? The time you think you are! Usually, you won't arrive to some place in your walk with God & know it's time for YOU to marry. When God is preparing, most of the time you have no idea where He's taking you, but you TRUST Him. What if it isn't God's will for you to marry, are you gonna continue to put your life in hold waiting on no one? No right? So get out & enjoy life as a single. Singleness is a gift! Just like marriage is. They are equally valued.

Enjoy being SINGLE!

"I have seen sooo many posts on dating. But NO one really talks about the JOY of being single! Being single means you should take this time to REALLY get close to GOD, surrounding your self with GOD-fearing people! Using your talents HE'S given you, staying prayed up and studying the WORD more and more! I won't tell you that God has someone for you, cause I simply do not know the plan GOD has for your life! I don't even know GOD's ultimate plan for my own life! HES ever changing and mysterious!! So don't try to figure HIM out!!! What GOD has for you, is for you and that's it!! Enjoy being a single CHRISTIAN and doing the work of GOD!! HE has you EXACTLY where HE wants you!" - Ellyse Campbell