I know I'm not happy ... but I LOVE HIM!

It's time to stop making excuses for him and understand why he won't & can't marry you! Stop ignoring the tell-tell signs. He can be treating you like crap, ignoring your phone calls, calling you out of your name, embarrassing you in front of other people or even putting his hands on you.. but because you "love him" .. & have a fear of no one really loving you the way you deserve to be loved, you stay with him. YOU know that's not God's BEST for you! This is a great issue in the dating relationships and even in most marriages today. But the focus of this blog is for the single women who are not married!

Ladies you have got to stop thinking that no good man would want you & that if he does you're gonna mess it up! What kind of God do you serve? If I still thought that way I wouldn't be a lady in waiting. Yes, I've had wonderful opportunities with Godly men & messed it up.. but the thing is, I've learned from my mistakes & still believe that God has someone great for me. Don't stay in bad relationships with men that mean you no good. Especially if you've given your life over to Christ, scripture says to not be equally yoked with a nonbeliever 2Cor6:14. The point is that a Godly man will help you grow in God. The key is to renew your relationship with Christ daily, that way when he sends the right guy your way -- you'll recognize him as that & you'll be prepared for him. The biggest issue with women who dream of marrying a good man is that circumstances and poor decisions has stunted the belief factor -- causing us to believe that a good man wouldn't want us. But that's far from the truth. God has designed us & He knows us better than we do. When we place our trust in Him, He will clean us up & give us the hope we need for the future Jer29:11. The enemy has this plan to come kill, steal & destroy but Jesus said He came that we may have life & have it abundantly John10:10. What is life abundantly? As we research the word of God -- it's the very life God intended us to have before sin came into the world. God has a perfect plan for your life hun. Don't let some dead beat continue stand in the way of that. You don't want to miss out on what God has for you! Our mindset must be renewed. Once you know your worth & your value, then you'll see that only a good-Godly man is worth marrying you. & if the one you're dating says to you "you won't find nobody else like me" .. then girl PRAISE THE LORD, you don't want another dead beat, no good bum like him ever again! Allow the word of God to wash you daily & renew your mind in Christ Jesus.

Love truly is what Christ did for us on the cross. You might be thinking, "that's the only man that would die for me!" Yes, that's true to a certain extent. The whole truth is that, a man who loves God & loves you will give his life up for you.. his will for you, his ways for you & the excuses will be thrown out. Jesus knew your worth & He thought you were to die for - that's the price He paid for your heart ... sweetheart, wait on the man who will pay the price for you called marriage! The RIGHT ONE will do exactly what God expects of him. You won't have to ask, it'll already be deeply rooted in him. The word tells us that husbands should love his wife like Christ loved the Church & gave Himself up for her.. Eph5:25-28. This shows us that "a man who say with his mouth he loves you, but his actions are far from it is a liar". That's harsh, but it's truth. The kind of love you need & you deserve is not just verbally expressed but much more physically shown. Let's take a look at another verse: "God so loved the world that He GAVE His only begotten Son.." John3:16. This verse is very known but few have noticed that this is the kind of love God expects us to have for one another. Love is giving. If the man you say you love, isn't giving his life over to you for all the right reasons -- he's just like the majority & is not fit for marriage. This the very reason why he can't marry you. You deserve way better than what you've been settling with. Sometimes, God won't allow the wrong guy to propose to you or marry you, because He's trying to protect you. 

Don't you want the strength it takes to wait on the Lord while He prepares you for the right person while He's preparing the right man for you?

If so, pray this prayer with me: Heavenly Father, you know me. You know my weakness for men that are no good for me. You know that I have a problem with accepting a good guy when he comes my way. Change my heart towards the things of you. Open my eyes to see the truth. I no longer desire to do things my way. I give up my will for yours. Your word says that you have a good plan for me and I wan to see just what it is you have for me. Lord, forgive me for not trusting you. Take my life and lead me down the path you have prepared for me. From this day forward I am your daughter, you are my King. Lead my every foot step. I love you so much, in Jesus precious name. Amen.

Daughter, your prayer has been heard & the Father is working it out for you. In your waiting, love on Him like no other. He wants to heal you, your brokenness & make you complete in Him. He loves so much & longs for you to fall in love with Him & trust Him with every area of your life. ♥